Topic: What is a woman's place in a relationship? (Read 10748 times)

RobinFlamingo · « **Reply #60 on:** February 19, 2006, 06:14:10 AM »

...and one other point. I'm 50. I have made it thru the Baby boom, hippies, the sexual revolution, the drug age, the Vietnam war, the women's equality movement, Gen X, the conservative swing, and am now mired in the total self-centeredness of today's teen and twentysomethings.

I.
DON'T.
WANT.
TO.
BE.
EQUAL.

I am female. In some very basic biological ways God made us superior. Childbirth, nurturing, multitasking...that extra layer of subcutaneous fat that fits us for floating and snuggling. In some very basic biological ways God made men superior. Strength and stamina, singlemindedness to a task, protectiveness. I'm glad we were made male and female, with tab A fitting into slot B pretty darned well.

I like not being equal. I'd like to be paid by society in an equitable fashion, but I want men to open the doors.

I think I'm done being a Robin come lately to this topic

howlingmeteore · « **Reply #61 on:** February 19, 2006, 01:08:42 PM »

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... I'd like to be paid by society in an equitable fashion

I apologize, maybe I am definitely quoting too much, but I really think these words put all the concept of this thread togheter, being treated equally does not mean being equal in everything, just like not being equal does not mean there is a superior part, I love the world where women and men honor their difference and nevertheless are given the same rights, what a precious concept!!!!!

Zagzagel · « **Reply #62 on:** February 21, 2006, 12:33:21 AM »

Way to go, RF. I am with u thus far. I am male and u probably know it thus far.

G.

Deep Thought · « **Reply #63 on:** March 30, 2006, 11:23:08 PM »

I wonder... why can't one family work differently than another? A family that abides by the ol' male-headship tradition looks at a family with the woman as head, and thinks, "What the...?!" And then the woman-head bunch looks back at the male-headship group and thinks, "Those poor, sexist pigs..."

If everyone would just get over their big heads and realize that their way isn't necessarily the only way that works, we'd have much less trouble in this area. There'd be no reason to bicker over the woman's place in the relationship, because the woman's place in the relationship would be "Whereever she chooses to be!" If the woman chooses to be the submissive housewife, then fine! She's golden! And if she chooses to be a little more authoritive in the family than certain traditional-minded individuals would like, then toss up some confetti! It's just as good! Relationships can work in more than one direction, y'know...

...and that also means (dear God, no!) that we all need to realize that male headship isn't necessarily sexist. Some women LIKE the idea of male power. Perhaps it would be best if the man in charge was closer to a democratic president than a Hitler-esque dictator, but that's beside the point.

As for me? I honestly don't care whether I'm the head of my future family or not. I just don't particularly fancy being at the bottom of the command-chain if the one on top is a dictatorial "itch," if you know what I mean?

Heretic · « **Reply #64 on:** March 31, 2006, 08:05:19 AM »

LOL!!!! About time a woman admitted to male superiority!! Ha!! Take that all you "women are equal" pansies!!

Deep Thought · « **Reply #65 on:** April 03, 2006, 06:40:18 PM »

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LOL!!!! About time a woman admitted to male superiority!! Ha!! Take that all you "women are equal" pansies!!

I would not say that women are unequal persons. I would have to admit, however, that men and women have certain biological differences (hormonal makeup, etc.) that should be taken into account. That is no reason for some kind of generic "male superiority," but it is something to consider when, say, pondering the question of which parent should do the mainstream child care.

howlingmeteore · « **Reply #66 on:** April 08, 2006, 09:21:23 PM »

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I would not say that women are unequal persons. I would have to admit, however, that men and women have certain biological differences .

agree...I personally don't believe that just because people are called to different roles either one is superior to the other or can't possibly do the other's job, I personally don't have any kids yet but I hope when they come , my husband and I will have enough money so that I can stay at home with them.
Am I the " inferior " woman who has to sacrifice her career ? depends on your perspective I'll actually be honored to be chosen by my God as the children's main responsible in the house,I honestly will even get some more decision on the children since, guess who sacrificed their career for them ? He chose me and I will try to do my best feeling very honored, I know that even though my husband is the most lovely person in the world I was the one chosen for this and there must be a reason, I also know that I could ( but I am not ) be the most delicious person on earth but God chose my husband to bring the bacon and I'll be glad to comply.
That however does not mean anyone is the boss of the other, or that we may not interchange if it is necessary , we just have different tasks period

howlingmeteore · « **Reply #67 on:** April 08, 2006, 09:24:48 PM »

Quote from: Heretic

LOL!!!! About time a woman admitted to male superiority!! Ha!! Take that all you "women are equal" pansies!!

Yankee · « **Reply #68 on:** April 23, 2006, 02:15:54 AM »

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Should the man be "head"? Only if he is willing to take ALL the responsiblily. Then he should never blame the wife for any failures.

The dominant personality is going to have the final say on big decisions, whether it's the husband or wife, and there is not a thing wrong with that so long as the determination is intended for the good of both. On the everyday routine of living, each has his own area of responsibility, and neither is the "head". After almost 50 years of marriage, I feel that I can safely say that.

David · « **Reply #69 on:** April 24, 2006, 06:40:55 PM »

lol. I can't believe this darn thread is still around.

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The dominant personality is going to have the final say on big decisions, whether it's the husband or wife, and there is not a thing wrong with that so long as the determination is intended for the good of both. On the everyday routine of living, each has his own area of responsibility, and neither is the "head". After almost 50 years of marriage, I feel that I can safely say that.

But there is going to be a dominant personality? I started this thread because I felt that in each aspect of a relationship, and in each desicion rendered, someone must have the final say, and someone must be willing to submit to that, be it the man or the woman. I was curious if it was intrinsically better to have the man with the final authority, and frankly, Im still not sure.

Yankee · « **Reply #70 on:** April 24, 2006, 10:35:52 PM »

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But there is going to be a dominant personality? I started this thread because I felt that in each aspect of a relationship, and in each desicion rendered, someone must have the final say, and someone must be willing to submit to that, be it the man or the woman. I was curious if it was intrinsically better to have the man with the final authority, and frankly, Im still not sure.[/quote]

A friend who used to be a car salesman told me that when a man and wife buy a car, and they are sitting across from the salesman that he is taught to write an amount on a slip of paper without saying what it is, slide it across the table between the two, and whichever one picks it up is going to have the final say, so he then directs his sales pitch to that one. That is definitely recognizing that one of the partners is dominant. If the woman is more capable of making decisions, why shouldn't it be she, even if the Apostle Paul says women should be submissive? Just as some people are made to be homosexual, some are made to rule the roost, and it ain't necessarily the man. Live with it!

TheAtheistHeratic · « **Reply #71 on:** April 25, 2006, 04:42:23 PM »

I've noticed in high school that girls are usually more controlling than their boyfriends, but most the time they either get along or the break up. period dot.

Yankee · « **Reply #72 on:** April 26, 2006, 01:19:35 AM »

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I've noticed in high school that girls are usually more controlling than their boyfriends, but most the time they either get along or the break up. period dot.

I have a sixteen year old grandson. At this point in his life, he is more than willing to be dominated. It's the hormones, honey. Character and personality have nothing to do with it; pheromones rule the day! (Not the night, yet. He won't get a driver's license until he's 18.)

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David