Joe,
"How do the two sets of in-laws get on?"
They don't. There's not a feud or anything. They live in different parts of the state and never see each other. My parents are both professional people-people, and can successfully get on with just about anyone. But Southern Africa is a long way away. However, they sort of meet through us, because of how like our parents we can be in some ways. I'm always on time, for example, and get really tense and anxious if something prevents me from being punctual. Mercy is a little more laid back about this, and her brothers even more so. One of her brothers actually missed our wedding in Namibia because he didn't make it to the airport in time to catch his flight. When I am flying anywhere I am literally there hours in advance of when I need to be. Anyway, when we're at Mercy's parents' home, there'll be a plan to go out for dinner, and someone will say "We'll leave at seven". Fairly straightforward, I think to myself. So at ten to seven I am sitting in the car, where I will continue to sit, alone, until maybe half-past seven when the first non-crazy person will wander out to join me.
On the other hand, Mercy is always slightly stunned at my parents house when the same arrangement is made and is then followed by notifications of increasing frequency in the form of one or other of my parents standing at the bottom of the stairs shouting "we're leaving in half an hour people!", then "we're leaving in fifteen minutes!", "ten minutes!", "five minutes! Everybody got their shoes on?" and so on. Cultural differences.
I like to think that, if God is love and Jesus was human, then God would be humane when the situation called for it. When I read the Gospels, that's how I see Jesus responding to those he meets. I also enjoy your perspective because not only do you have a huge heart for those who suffer most in this world, you're also open to understanding people with different ideas.Uh-oh, this seems altogether too friendly to me. I could get in trouble with the Worldwide Humanist/Atheist Conspiracy to Kill or at least Judiciously Offend Believers (WHACKJOB). Quickly,... Make it right... Uh,
STOOPID sky-daddy follower! Don't you know that myths are for kids!!!
Ah, much better.

Mercy asked me earlier who I was arguing with
now (slight tone of impatience there), and I told her a little bit about our amicable discussion. She said something like, "So, is he an atheist too?", presumably because of the lack of violent disagreement that I alluded to, and I said "No, he's like you - one of the nice Christians".
The only alternatives I see (and forgive me if this sounds blunt) is to say that if God doesn't conform to my understanding of morality within my perspective, he is either a sadist or he does not exist.While I have to acknowledge the possibility that my human perspective may be myopically limited, I don't find it useful to question my basic understanding of morality as far as it appears to be shared by most other primates. The bible gets treated as a great moral text only because we cherry-pick from it, using our own intuition to select the good ethical lessons it contains. But that makes us, not the bible, the source of those lessons. What if, for example, I went to the bible with no preconceptions in order to discover whether killing children en masse was wrong. It appears to depend entirely upon who is doing it - when it's Herod, it's very bad, but when it's Joshua it's fine. This is a tribal form of relativism that I can't associate with a supreme being which I would want to have anything to do with.
Now, if the bible is a human document, then it becomes more understandable, but then I have literally nothing to go on to discover who god is and what "he" is like.
One of the things the Bible says over and over again is that we are flawed. Wouldn't that flaw extend to our understanding of morality? I don't think that you can really be that uncertain about the basics of right and wrong. I am not saying that there aren't some difficult moral issues that we may not yet have a good answer to, of course there are. But if you were put in the position of Abraham, and told to take your son out and sacrifice him to show your love for god, I very much hope that you would recognise that as an immoral command, whether or not the action itself was allowed to proceed.
A while back, I suggested (with absolutely no intended flippancy, with the understanding how incendiary that can sound coming from a Christian and with full understanding that many atheists have tried this and, as a result, have a rocky history with God and/or religion in general full of intellectual as well as emotional potholes that would take a lot of work to make right if God does, indeed, exist) that if you're looking for a way to prove conclusively, to yourself at least, that God either does or does not exist, a good way to go about that would be to approach it like a science experiment, ask him for reasons to believe and see what happens. That's the closest thing to falsifiability I can think of. Did you try it? If so, how did it go? I haven't prayed, which is what you originally suggested. I have difficulty with the idea of even trying, because of the baggage it seems to carry along with it. Assuming (and not just for the sake of argument) that the universe is other than how I believe it to be is not easy, but I feel a little bad about not fulfilling what seems like a reasonable request from a very reasonable fellow. It is something that I have done once or twice before, but for the record let me do it again here:
To any Gods who may be reading,
I would be truly and genuinely interested to know that you existed, and if, as my friend Joe suggests, I might receive some sort of enlightenment by this means then that would be worthwhile and important for my personal development. So, if you are really out there I would very humbly request that you let me know it.
Regards,
Dannyboy
Feel free to call me names and/or throw things at me. I completely understand.
Innnnnnncommmmmingggggg!!!!. No, thanks anyway.
I love Louis C.K.!I only just discovered him, having seen him being hilarious on the Daily Show (by chance, because I usually skip over the interviews unless it's someone I know something about). I especially liked the thing he did on
"being white".
Are you present for just the tragedy, or do you get to see the extension of time leading up to and away from those difficult moments? Sometimes I get to be with families of the dying for an hour or two before it happens, hopefully preparing them, but more usually it's the few hours afterwards that I get to see. Most people who die in the ED are brought in either very very sick or effectively already dead and then we work on them for a bit, but it has an extremely low success rate. Children are the hardest to deal with.
It could still be a human response even if God exists. Whoever authored Job, I'm guessing he/she was human. This is quite true, but beyond some sort of revelation or spiritual experience (which, I am forced to notice, occur in all religions, which makes me doubt their reliability as they seem to be used to validate many mutually exclusive doctrines), that leaves me with no way of finding out what God is really like, or if he actually exists at all.
You sound a little frustrated here. I hope I haven't said something offensive and I hope I haven't been giving canned, lame Christian responses. Please let me know if that's the case. That's not my intent. I wasn't frustrated, perhaps just being a little more emphatic than usual. Worry ye not.
Re: Bethlehem and virgin births
I have a hard time buying the merely "young woman" translation for three reasons.
First is context. The verse you're referencing here (Isaiah 7:14, right?) also says to expect a sign (sometimes "a great sign"). Young women give birth to babies all the time. How is that a (great) sign of something? What's unique about it? As I understand it, Almah means something along the lines of "young woman who is not married", which would obviously have a large overlap with the word virgin in ancient Palestine but is not truly synonymous with it. For an "Almah" to give birth would therefore be an unusual event, but to interpret this as necessarily a miraculous conception is unwarranted. "Bethulah" is the Hebrew word that, as far as i understand it, more specifically refers to virginity (as used in 2 Samuel 13:2 and elsewhere).
Second is greater context. Nowhere in the Tanach is almah or its plural used in reference to a young woman who is married or is not a virgin. At least as far as I can tell. I'm not a Biblical Scholar, so maybe it is and I missed it. In genesis 24, the text refers to Rebekah as almah verse 43: "See, I am standing beside this spring. If a young woman comes out to draw water and I say to her, "Please let me drink a little water from your jar." (which, itself, sounds like a euphemism). In Exodus 2, when Miryam tells Pharoah's daughter that she could find a nurse for baby Moses, the text refers to Miryam as almah. In Proverbs 30:18, the text uses almah: "There are three things that are too amazing for me; four things that I don't understand: The way of the eagle in the sky; the way of the snake on the rock; the way of the ship in the heart of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid'I agree that it is not used for any married woman, but that is to be expected given the meaning of the word, mentioned above. This is still a long way from implying definite virginity. If I were to say that "a young unmarried woman shall bear a son" there would not be sufficient evidence to conclude that i was describing a case of supernatural intervention, either back then or in the present day.
Finally, the Septuagint translation of almah uses the Greek word for virgin, parthenos (or something close to that spelling). Which I guess is why Matthew and Luke, who wrote, and therefore presumably also read scripture in Greek, thought that this "prophecy" intended that a virgin would bear a child. As I said earlier, this is not an uncommon theme in religion or mythology, and translation is definitely not an exact science. Sometimes you have to compromise on the closest available meaning, and that can lead to misunderstandings like this.
But what is striking to me is that Paul seems to know nothing about the alleged virgin birth, which you would have thought to be worth mentioning. That gives it the air of a later tradition. Also, Mary, despite apparently being told by an angel that she was going to bear a divine child, in later stories of Jesus appears utterly bewildered by the activities of her son. Why is he arguing with rabbis in the temple? What does he mean when he says that he is on his father's business? You would think that the whole angelic visitation thing would have stuck in her mind a bit better. Unless it is merely a thematic device by later Chroniclers who wanted to give their hero the gloss of fulfilled prophecy in retrospect.
"If a prophecy is known about then a pretender to fulfil that prophecy can consciously and deliberately act in a manner which fits with its specifics."
Right, but if a prophesy is legit and eventually comes to pass, it's just as easy for us to step in post-hoc and declare it a pretender with delusions of grandeur. Either way, it feels like we're cheating. If we're going to evaluate a prophecy fairly, how can we KNOW one way or the other without assuming anything beforehand? I don't think we can, which brings us back to a balance of probabilities. Even if we lived in the same time and place, there would be no way to conclusively verify Mary's virginity prior to giving birth to Jesus. We would have only her word, and in the present day we only have her alleged word, though nowhere specifically reported as such, recorded second or third or forth hand, more than half a century after the allegedly miraculous birth but not apparently known to anybody writing earlier than Matthew and Luke, or to anyone not aware of their works writing afterwards (John, for example, seems unaware of it).
So, rather than believing that the laws of biology were suspended on the flimsiest of evidence, I think it is far safer to assume that Jesus was born in the usual way, and that later writers who already believed him to be the messiah wrote him what they considered to be a worthy back-story.
I know Luke and Matthew differ on whether or not Mary and Joseph were living in Bethlehem at the time. Is it an issue that getting to Bethlehem seems unlikely or is it the differences seen in each of the gospels? Well, the account in Luke of the census requiring everyone to go back to the town of their ancestors is intrinsically unlikely and not corroborated by any historical source (which you would think ought to have noticed a mass population movement like that). The two stories are not really consistent - one has Herod, the other has the decree from Caesar. One has shepherds, the other has wise men. And both use different methods to have Jesus born in Bethlehem as the prophecy demanded.
In Matthew, Joseph and Mary apparently live in Bethlehem as you mention - not only is there no mention of them travelling there from somewhere else, but when they flee to Egypt, on their return Joseph rejects the idea of going back to Judea because Herod's son is now the governor there. Why would he be considering going back to Judea if his hometown was in Galilee, as in Luke? And on the subject of the flight to Egypt, there is no time for it to occur in Luke's gospel anyway, because he has them returning to Nazareth after Mary's ritual purification (about a month).
Jesus is multiply attested to come from Nazareth. Matthew and Luke, who already shown to be writing with an eye to fulfilling prophecy, wanted him to be born in Bethlehem, and accomplish it in conflicting ways in accounts which are not historically credible even when taken separately (the unnoticed census, the disparities between the reign of Herod and the period when Quirinias was governor of Syria, etc).
That's pretty much why it seems fake to me.
Take care brother,
Dan
PS - it's weird how little choices can have big effects. The decision of maybe one guy to translate the Hebrew "almah" into Greek as "parthenos" is the bedrock of the whole Catholic reverence for the "virgin" Mary, and Matthew and Luke's wish to have Jesus be seen to fulfill prophecy meant that i grew up singing "Oh little town of Bethlehem" every Christmas like a schmuck. Ok, that last one isn't such a significant effect, but a major dogma of the present and historical roman church is.